Sunday, July 18, 2010

I am Done

I AM DONE… lately as I get busier and busier I find myself saying it more and more. Every day I get up to take my son to swim team , then home to pick up my daughter for swim lessons; and back to the house for a few emails then lunch; then sewing, then pack orders , run to the post office, stop at the grocery store, get dinner ready for the family, then back to the pool for a swim meet. I thought summer is slower placed. I find it is full of more laundry then every and I spent more time find something for kids to do. Never mind the fact that the 2 kids are eating me out of house and home. So I have my days were I am done… I asked my husbands Aunt if she every said she was Done.. and she says" of course I had 3 kids".. So every mother/women has said it and if haven't yet you will… lets explore the purpose behind the "I am Done"

What does "I'm Done" mean is it an empty threat? Is it time to leave, abandon the hubby/kids, move to the country or city get a place by yourself so you can finish a thought or have free time in the bathroom without someone knocking on the door(tempting isn't it). Does saying "I'm done" mean you refuse to do the dishes or answer another question from a 4 year old that is just talking to talk..Like when they say I have a questions only to say "I like fruit" (FYI Kid …that is not a question)

Moms are the best Jugglers in the world. So if we say we are Done… does that mean the laundry does not get cleaned and little Timmy has to where those same jeans again(not that I have every let my son do this )BabyPop's fingers are crossed as she types. Or is it walk away and get a glass of wine. (I am not saying BabyPop has ever drank a glass of wine to cure the Done Day) fingers still crossed.

 I vote for a Mom National Done Day where the laundry piles up, the dishes get crusty, and kids miss a few practices. Moms need to say they are done and need to not worry about the juggle and concern ourselves about each ball..rather then going through the motions.

So for me today(&last night) is my break from the Done Day. Today is a day where I get to enjoy my kids and husband. I went to the pool at night I took only my son and we played water fight swimming races and see who can go the longest under water. This morning I got up walked the dog and made beaded bracelets with my daughter. Tonight my husband might be the recipient of a happy wife. I am not done today and it is a amazing day.

Tell me you say you are done… What do you do to help cure the "Done's"?


Anonymous said...

I am often done. I spent the last week "done" with potty training--'course I know it has to be complete at some point, but didn't see the point of forcing the issue the same week I was going to be teaching 5th and 6th graders at Vacation Bible School.

I am fortunate to have the husband I do--often he has seen when I am "done," and sent me out to take a break, or cleared out the house so that I can take a candlelight bath or read or sleep as needed.

Kate R said...

When i am done i usually reprioritize. I ask myself, is this important really? and I often find the answers to be different than someone elses... lots of people tell me dont bother to clean, yet a clean house offers a sense of calm like no other tonic - not sleep, not wine lol. i used to worry that the daycare teachers would judge the quality of my lunches - but she wont eat the organic pb and j on whole wheat, she just wants those crappy microwave kid meals! so i guess i try not to be so finally, completely "done" - but i might just be done that thing - like trying to keep the sneakers sparkling clean or keep all the sand in the sandbox!

BabyPop said...

Anonymous - My husband is great at dealing with me when i am in taht mood. I really think he is way better of not sweating the small stuff.

Kate R I hear ya, I love a clean house it does give you a sense of control(though mine is never how I like it every. But I have to say I sadly turn towards food, sometimes sleep to chill out. I don't drink often (like once a month) but last week the that glass of wine was nice.
I do however like those clean sneakers.